Wednesday 27 June 2012

Guest Post for Wriggly Rascals - Should I have my baby immunised?


Getting your kids vaccinated is a no brainer……. Isn’t it?

At one time I used to think it was. I would scoff at parents who didn’t get their children vaccinated but all that changed as soon as I got pregnant. I started to do a bit of research on the UK’s and US’s vaccination programmes and to be honest what I found was disturbing, confusing, misleading and totally bewildering.

Whilst I was pregnant with my first child I saw an interview with Jenny McCarthy whose son has autism, which she believes was caused by vaccinations and understandably she is very anti vaccinations. I listened with interest to her views on the subject, I looked at her website which has an enormous amount of information and I read forums where people discussed whether or not to vaccinate, I read a lot of stories where parents were convinced that the vaccines had caused problems with their children’s development. This lead me to do research myself, I read a lot of denials from the government, drug companies, doctors who all claim that vaccinations are safe and that parents who didn’t vaccinate were totally irresponsible.  I also of course came across Dr Andrew Wakefield’s paper which says that he thought single vaccinations are possibly safer than the MMR. Then you have the other argument against single vaccinations, if you chose the single vaccination route then you are exposing your child to 3 x the amount of mercury, so we shouldn’t vaccinate at all and just let the body’s immune system do its job….. Argh!!

Itis a quagmire of contradictions, opposing arguments and just down right scaremongering. I was also being bombarded with swine flu vaccination scare stories as we were in the middle of the Swine Flu outbreak when my eldest was born. Interestingly enough we are now starting to hear reports of cases that the Swine Flu vaccination has caused narcolepsy in some children and that Finland are no longer using the vaccine on the under 20’s unlike the UK who are still using it, put that together with the recent measles outbreak because people have chosen not to vaccinate, it seems like we can’t ever do the right thing.

The question I asked myself at the time was which could I handle more: My child falling ill or worse dying from a preventable illness or my child being disabled from my choice to try and protect them?

It was a tough decision but in the end I vaccinated my girls, I felt the odds of my child being affected by the vaccine was minimal, even though I do think there is a risk with the vaccines regardless of the claptrap that the government and drug companies try to tell us but for me the benefits far outweighed the risk.  We have eliminated and controlled serious illnesses with our vaccination programmes and so it made sense to have it done, even though in all honesty it also terrified me, but I am my own worse enemy as I like to know the ins and outs of everything so I scare myself to death in my quest  for knowledge.

It wasn’t without its problems though, my eldest who is 3 now started walking at 10 months old so by the time she had her MMR at 13 months she was a competent walker, she was an agile little thing that could run, spin around etc. She had her MMR in the morning and by the afternoon she was limping, then by tea time she was walking on her tiptoes on her left leg, by bed time she wouldn’t walk at all and she reverted back to crawling. I was terrified that I had damaged her, that she was going to go into a shell, that I had caused her to become autistic, I had crippled her…all these awful thoughts went through my head, I was heartbroken. The next day she still wouldn’t walk so I took her to the doctors, they thought she was just a bit sore and to come back in a week or so if she was no better. I really felt like I was being fobbed off, it was terrifying but thankfully she did get better but it took a good four or five weeks for her to start walking properly again, it was the longest few weeks of my life, her leg was very bruised so I guess it was just really sore for her, I reported it again to the doctors but unfortunately it did seem like anything negative about the vaccinations were simply ignored and there was no procedure in place at my doctors to report any concerns or side effects, which is both disappointing and a little worrying.

Asa parent I don’t want to be misled, mollycoddled or lied to, what I want is the truth so I can make an informed decision on the best thing for my child. If there is a risk, tell me, give me the facts and figures because whatever you do in life there is always a risk.

Where am I now? Would I do it again?

Well my youngest has had all her vaccinations and I am happy to report that hers went smoothly, so yes I did it again and even though I had that scare and I do have my concerns I do advocate vaccinations. I couldn’t live with the guilt if one of my children contracted an illness that I could have prevented. 

I understand that this is not everyone’s choice, so my advice is to do your research, try and gather as much “rational” information as you can and do whatis best for you and your family.





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Tuesday 26 June 2012

Here lies Julie she was talked to death!


My 3 year old can talk... when I say talk I mean she can REALLY talk, non stop from the minute her little eyes open to the minute they close, its incessant! 

Mummy, what are you doing?                 Getting dressed
Mummy, what are you doing?                 Getting dressed
Mummy, what are you doing?                 Getting dressed
Mummy, are you getting dressed?         Yes
Mummy, are you getting dressed?         Yes
Mummy, are you getting dressed?         Yes
Mummy, are you getting dressed?         Yes
Mummy, what are you doing?                 Getting dressed
Mummy, what are you doing?                 Getting dressed

Mummy, who is that girl?                         I don't know
Mummy, who is that girl?                         I don't know
Mummy, where is she going?                 I don't know
Mummy, what is her name?                    I don't know
Is she going to school?                           I don't know
I want to go to school                              hmmmm
Mummy I want to go to school                Ok
Mummy, I want to go to school               Ok
Mummy can I go to that school               Yes

Mummy, what are you doing?
Mummy, where is daddy?
Mummy, what are you doing?
Mummy, where is daddy?
Mummy, what are you doing?
Mummy, where is daddy?Mummy, what are you doing?
Mummy, where is daddy?

****STOP TALKING FOR A MINUTE PLEASE****



This goes on every minute of every day.  I am positive she is going to talk me to death.  If she does can someone please get the coroner to put on my death certificate: Cause of Death - She was talked to death

And the most scary part is I have an 18 month old jabber box as well..... Argh HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!




Monday 25 June 2012

My daughter the blogger

Hmmm my 18 month old is a wannabe blogger!


Every time I turn my back the little sod is on my phone posting blogs, as she hasn't quite mastered the art of the written word yet, all she posts are empty blogs. Which in all honesty are probably better than some of the shit I come up with up.


She has done two of these in the last two days 



I am sure there will be plenty more to come and once she figures out how to write stuff this is an example of what you will get.




She text this to to my friend last week, I think she was saying she is looking forward to Christmas....



She is available for guest blogs and crank calls

Sunday 17 June 2012

Dad




Fathers Day this year has got me thinking and feeling a bit emotional. The reason for this mainly I guess is that I'm getting to an age where my friends seem to be losing their dads at an alarming frequency, add to that I am suddenly feeling my own mortality it can only lead to sombre thoughts.

So I want to put this out there as a special message to my Dad.

My dad is the best dad in the world, fact!

I love him with all my heart and soul but as with most things in life we never say it. If you sent me out to pick myself the perfect dad then I don't think I could of chosen better.

So Happy Fathers Day to my Dad, who really is the best Dad in the world!




Silent Sunday



Thursday 14 June 2012

The nasties under the sofa


I am a clean person

I love a clean house

I am a little OCD at times 

So

How come whenever I clean under my sofa cushions, which is regular its like an explosion in a biscuit/crisp/raisin/small toy factory!

It mortifies me! Really it does. I am sure if I cleaned it then left the room for 5 minutes and came back to look, it would like I had never cleaned it in the first place. I would try this experiment but I am too scared in case we have a Drop Dead Fred, who I am already convinced is Baba's friend... Seriously! This kid can make a mess.

If she starts calling herself snotface then I know I'm in big trouble!







Wednesday 13 June 2012

I am renaming the day as Whinging Wednesday


Today all I have done is whinge, so I am renaming today to Whinging Wednesday.

I have whinged about lack of sleep due to my terrible twosome deciding that sleep is for the weak.

I have whinged that everyone has sun and we don't

I have whinged that Baba has a constant runny nose, which in all fairness is disgusting

I have whinged that my breasts have disappeared, completely disappeared! I bought two new bra's yesterday, 32 A and I still don't fill the cup! Fecking kids! Next step is a training bra!

I've whinged that it's still half term here so I can't take the girls to jellybeans because it will be bedlam.

I've just been to the clinic to get Baba weighed and the clinic is this afternoon not morning

I've spent £20 on a magazine, dishwasher tablets and milk! £20!!

And it's now raining

All this before 10.30am

Happy Days!

Tuesday 12 June 2012

I am about to get crafty


My new Cath Kidtson Sew Book has arrived and I am beyond excited!

I think I am really getting sad in my old age, I have gone from hardcore party animal to Cath Kidston Cushion maker in three easy steps.

But I don't care, I am going to embrace my inner old fogey and craft until my hearts content, whether I am any good is another matter entirely but I can see people getting lots of cushions and bunting for Christmas (sorry to my family in advance).

First on my list to make is lots of girly cushions for my 3 year olds day bed and then I am going to tackle making a pair of curtains for my bedroom.

I will keep you updated!

Ooohhhhh so excited!!!